Starting over can be intimidating. We’ve can become so set on the current or past versions of ourselves, that seeing or becoming anything else that challenges that is often frightening.
I get it!
I get it because this is how I feel.
I am what you call a chronic start overer.
I know it sounds funny and made up and I may be the only person who is using the phrase. However, that is exactly who I am and what I do. Especially since I am a Mom and have to often drop things on the fly.
I am constantly changing my mind. Searching for my purpose in life. The “why” to my existence and as a true Enneagram two I am drawn to always wanting to be the one to help others. With every time I do, I am scared shitless.
I am scared that what I am trying to do want to be of contribution to the world.
I’m scared that my ideas are too far-fetched.
I am afraid.
This is something that I’ve always seen as a flawed trait. I was too flighty, non-committal, and just not normal. People would see right through what I was trying to do. If I wasn’t good enough to stick to one thing how could I be good enough to accomplish anything? And as we all know that we are our own worst critic. Here’s the kicker though…
Who determines what is normal and what isn’t?
The answer is simply put, no one does. This is what I had to work on understanding. Hell, it is something that I still work on.
I’ve come to this conclusion.
You are one million, without a shadow of a doubt, percent allowed to reinvent yourself. You can do this as many times as you want or need to. There is no limit. What I am saying to you is that it is infinite.
Caterpillars go through their life thinking that they are no more than what they are in that time. The inch across surfaces seeming completely and utterly happy with who they are however they are completely designed to be something more. After the caterpillar’s completion of metamorphosis, they are then transformed into a beautiful version of themselves, a Butterfly. The Butterfly may look completely different and they go about life in a whole new way. However, at its core, it still has a part of the caterpillar and all the things it learned during its seemingly happy time as one. Now as a butterfly it is able to truly love the beautiful reinvention and appreciate who it once was.
That’s the beauty of it.
The beauty in the Art of reinvention.
What is reinvention?
Well, the dictionary explanation of it is. Reinvention is the action or process through which something is changed so much that it appears to be entirely new.
In my explanation, Reinvention is letting go of who we thought we were so we may stepping into who we are meant to be.
Both versions while sounding different, are a complete synonym of the other. It is about change. It’s about rebuilding yourself and that it is okay to do so.
We are only human and as we age we also grow in mind. We mature and our outlook on life often changes as well. The way we see ourselves changes. The way we see others change. Our lakes, our dislikes it all changes. It’s the art of living, the wonder, the Joy. The utter mystery that with time we are able to change into so many subtle versions of ourselves that we don’t even notice that we are subconsciously being reinvented.
It’s quite crazy if you really think about it. The person I was at sixteen wasn’t who I was at twenty and that version isn’t who I am now at 30!
So don’t allow anyone to tell you that any beautiful version of you is wrong. That you should know by now who you are and what your purpose in life should be. That you have to stay in the box that society has tried to place you in.
Embrace the process.
Embrace the art of reinvention!
Here are some helpful tips if you want to consciously reinvent yourself.
- Think of who you are now and let the pressures of that person go.
- Associate yourself only with people who are in the same progression as you
- Set realistic goals that can be easily broken down and done.
- Do self-reflection again and again and again
- Commit to reinventing yourself and changing
- Lastly, remember that reinventing oneself is an art form. This is a delicate art format that and everyone’s reinvention story will not be the same as someone else.
Remember these helpful tips and find some useful ones on your own.
Oh, I am going to repeat it so that you will never forget. No one is the author of your story babe. You are ONE MILLION, without a shadow of a doubt, percent allowed to be whatever beautiful version of you that you see fit.
If there is anything we’ve learned in the previous year, is that life is too short to not live our lives to the fullest without fear of the judgment of others.
It’s time to reinvent yourself, sis!
“Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, You periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself .”— Mireille guiliano